Many parents get caught up in the recruiting process and get so excited and proud of their sons and daughters that they forget it is not about them but about the student-athlete, their son or daughter.
- Communicate early. Once your son or daughter starts thinking about being a student-athlete (their decision), start talking about it. This will avoid parachuting in later.
- Be a sounding board. Listen, listen, listen; take in as much as possible.
- Avoid trying to build a parental relationship with the coach.
- Be supportive, be proud and SAY IT!
- It’s your child’s time and effort, not yours.
Coaches want to build a relationship with the player. Parents need to be involved when it comes to visits, scholarships talks, etc. I know coaches that have passed on a talented athlete because of a parents’ behavior during the recruiting process.
Of course it is absolutely necessary for parents to be a part of the process, however, parents can sometimes move the focus of the athlete to themselves which will reflect negatively on the recruiting process.
Parents know their children best so ask questions and be interested – not demanding.
Parents, stay away from:
- Demanding playing time or position.
- Comparing your son or daughter to players currently on the team.
- Comparing your athletic career (however long or short) to your son or daughters